Calling all moms (and grandmoms)....

[catnapper]

Has she told her boyfriend yet?

She said she told him last night that she might be pregnant and then she started to have LES so I don't think it went well. We'll see. I'm not holding out much hope for him standing by her side through all this. I do worry how hubby's going to react to the boy's reaction.

[Husky_mom]

WOW Twins!!! such a package!!!1.................well i just wanted to give one "experience" about two heartbeats..........

when my MIL was expecting my hubby she had two heartbeats and was thinking twins, but when she got images they found out it was just one but the umbilical cord was so big it masde the second heartbeat, so this could be her case, but wih twins in family its more likely that they are, but you can hope............eitherway they´ll be such a joy......regardles of the circumstances

Hugs

[Maresche]

Would it really be such a bad thing if the boyfriend didn't stick around? Having no father isn't necessarily a bad thing, especially if "Dad" isn't a good person to begin with.

Be sure to go after boyfriend for child support though!

[king2005]

Would it really be such a bad thing if the boyfriend didn't stick around? Having no father isn't necessarily a bad thing, especially if "Dad" isn't a good person to begin with.

Be sure to go after boyfriend for child support though!

I'm a big supporter of this!!

[catnapper]

Would it really be such a bad thing if the boyfriend didn't stick around? Having no father isn't necessarily a bad thing, especially if "Dad" isn't a good person to begin with.

Be sure to go after boyfriend for child support though!

Exactly. My step-daughter's birth mom isn't in the picture at all - and she's better off for it.

I just wonder how much child suppport she'll get from him. He works part time at a pizza joint and does nothing else all day long. A good old fashoned loser.

I'm not worried about much because we'll be there for her no matter what, but I want to make sure he doesn't try to deny the baby and skip town. I hope his parents are good enough people to make sure he lives up to his responsibilities.

[popcornbird]

Twins!!! Wow. I can understand why she passed out. Twins...two babies, when she wasn't expecting a child at all. Poor girl must be so traumatized. I hope she learns from this. Take care of yourself, and try to look at things in a positive way. You're going to have TWO NEW BABIES in the house. Two new babies to keep you happy and busy. He he he. I'll be praying everything turns out okay for you.

[king2005]

Once you get the child support guys after him, they'll stay on his tail & take a % of whatever he erns & give it to the mother & baby. So if he makes big money down the road, the % will brin gin more $$ to the mother & baby.

Here in Canada, the first child is worth aprox 300.00 & the 2ed is worth aprox 200.00 for a father who clears about 30k/yr after taxes. The % can go up & down, so it depends on the childs needs & why the father isn't in the picture.

Exactly. My step-daughter's birth mom isn't in the picture at all - and she's better off for it.

I just wonder how much child suppport she'll get from him. He works part time at a pizza joint and does nothing else all day long. A good old fashoned loser.

I'm not worried about much because we'll be there for her no matter what, but I want to make sure he doesn't try to deny the baby and skip town. I hope his parents are good enough people to make sure he lives up to his responsibilities.

[My Peanuts]

TWINS! Wow. I'm sure she's scared to death, but in a year she'll wonder how she ever lived without them. Congrats!

[moosmom]

I wonder if it is possible to determine paternity now somehow

Yes, it's called DNA. It'll put to rest any doubt about who the father is. Make SURE you get him for child support.

Kim,

It'll be nice to spoil a grandkid, huh?? I noticed TWINS was mentioned. Is it one or two??

[Maresche]

I just wonder how much child suppport she'll get from him. He works part time at a pizza joint and does nothing else all day long. A good old fashoned loser.

It's called garnishment and the government will do it. My SIL just got a check for $1800 from her ex who hasn't paid a dime otherwise in a year. Out of his federal income tax return. She may not get much regularly but she will get something especially with twins.

I'm not worried about much because we'll be there for her no matter what, but I want to make sure he doesn't try to deny the baby and skip town. I hope his parents are good enough people to make sure he lives up to his responsibilities.

I hope she comes to see what good people you are and how very lucky she is.

I wonder if it is possible to determine paternity now somehow.

[catnapper]

I might sound jaded but I have no faith in the government helping in making him collect. The kids' (my step kids') mother owes nearly $20,000 in arrears and all the government makes her pay towards it is $20 a month for all 3 kids. It took YEARS for us to FINALLY get the government to even get her to pay anything, and she only owes $70 a month per kid.... do the math and figure out many years she paid nothing before we could get the government to make sure she paid.

[Pam]

Kim I am floored almost as much as your stepdaugher! Yikes! Welcome to Grandmotherhood! (Is that a word?) Thank God you got her to a doctor early....at least I hope it's early. With twins they are often small (low birth weight) and teenage moms often deliver small babies. A teenage mom pregnant with twins is a double concern. (Pardon the pun) She will need to be advised about nutrition, etc. to insure a healthy baby and a healthy mom.

Looking down the road a bit, I imagine you will be helping out quite a bit now with two on the way. I can't even imagine the sleepless nights (getting two to stay asleep at the same time). I hope this doesn't impact you too much financially as you might need to stop working yourself in order to help with child care. I agree with the others, though, that once these little ones are here they will be worth every gray hair that will soon start popping out of your head. ((((Double hugs))))

[Corinna]

you may want to get $$ out of him but you may rethink this if he does he has rights to them . Make sure if he wants nothing to doi with them get his rights revocked so your daughter can make all choices for them with out him screwing with any thing.

[king2005]

I might sound jaded but I have no faith in the government helping in making him collect. The kids' (my step kids') mother owes nearly $20,000 in arrears and all the government makes her pay towards it is $20 a month for all 3 kids. It took YEARS for us to FINALLY get the government to even get her to pay anything, and she only owes $70 a month per kid.... do the math and figure out many years she paid nothing before we could get the government to make sure she paid.

Damn!!!

Our child support guys are blood thirsty animals, but can be fair!!! The father has to keep his cool in the court house, or his % can go sky high! My dad behaved & paid 500.00/month for the 2 of us.. My uncle didn't & he had to pay 1000.00/month for 1 kid!! However he was only misbehaving cause he couldn't afford the origional rate of 300.00/month & a later judge saw that & saw how greedy the mother was & how rotten the son was becoming, he lowered it to 100.00.

In canada there is now a special law that allows the child support to tap into the father bank account & it'll auto take the money out as soon as a pay cheque goes into the account. The fathers cannot stop this, nor fight it...

Would fighting the matter with a group of single moms, help the issue? I know this method works here, just don't know about the usa.

[Jadapit]

Wow, twins!! I bet you felt a liitle like passing out yourself when you heard that. I'm sure all of you are pretty overwhelmed right now, you all will be in my thoughts.