I can appreciate your concerns. Everyone expects their final Goodbyes to be FINAL - at least in this life. I have never had a "bad experience" (aka Jessika) as described, but I do make sure that I dig deep (approx 4 feet) and then lay to rest with a wrapping of some sort (blanket they liked or something). I know this is rather morbid and all... but I find this final act to be less detached and more therapeutic.