Rob didn't come home lastnight

[kuhio98]

I'm very attached to Rob as he's really all I have. I'm also not fully dependent (mentally) so it scares the hell out of me that I couldn't reach him. If I loose Rob, I'd have to move to PEI & live with dad or my sister, or atleast very close to them. Stupid Anxity <_< I can care for pets of any kind, but not myself <_<

Did you mean that you're not fully independent?
Are you doing anything to change that? therapy, medication, etc.?

[king2005]

Did you mean that you're not fully independent?
Are you doing anything to change that? therapy, medication, etc.?

Rob's helping me out. I'm having far less attaks. My attacks were high, then I met Rob & they went to med-low & now I hardly get them. Unless something big happeneds, but they are no longer random.

A few Dr's wanted to put me on meds, but I have ripped up the prescriptions, as I want to help myself.. well let Rob help me... He's getting me to do things I really don't want to do, like answer the phone & call the super when something breaks. We're doing lots & its working, but I NEED Rob.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Glad you got hold of him at last - maybe you won't panic quite so much if it happens again

[kuhio98]

A few Dr's wanted to put me on meds, but I have ripped up the prescriptions, as I want to help myself.. well let Rob help me... He's getting me to do things I really don't want to do, like answer the phone & call the super when something breaks. We're doing lots & its working, but I NEED Rob.

Well, that's a lot of pressure to put on another person. I'm glad it's working out for you. I hope in time, that you see that you can count on yourself to handle daily life. You are your own best friend. It just takes practice to learn to trust yourself. And trust that you will be able to handle whatever life throws at you. Sure, it's nice to have another to share with. But, it's a 2-way street. You have to be in a place where the other person can count on you too. And, I think taking the medication would be a way to help yourself. To take responsibility for your own well-being. Not so dependant on another for your comfort level. Best wishes to you and Rob.

[Vela]

Well, that's a lot of pressure to put on another person. I'm glad it's working out for you. I hope in time, that you see that you can count on yourself to handle daily life. You are your own best friend. It just takes practice to learn to trust yourself. And trust that you will be able to handle whatever life throws at you. Sure, it's nice to have another to share with. But, it's a 2-way street. You have to be in a place where the other person can count on you too. And, I think taking the medication would be a way to help yourself. To take responsibility for your own well-being. Not so dependant on another for your comfort level. Best wishes to you and Rob.

I agree with you. It's very hard on someone to have to responsible for someone else's stability and happiness in life. It becomes very draining over time and can cause problems in the long run. I know this by watching people I know struggle with it and sometimes it becomes too much for the relationship. I am glad he is so helpful to you, that is great, but you have to try to get some stability without it being all up to him so that he can also depend on you if the time comes and so that he doesn't ever get to the point where it becomes too much of a burden for him to carry. I think you would be better off taking the medication and seeing a therpist, to help you become more stable in yourself and not so dependent on another person, for the simple fact that we never know what tomorrow will bring and it is good if we can be strong on our own when we need to be. I hope things get better for you.

[king2005]

I agree with you. It's very hard on someone to have to responsible for someone else's stability and happiness in life. It becomes very draining over time and can cause problems in the long run. I know this by watching people I know struggle with it and sometimes it becomes too much for the relationship. I am glad he is so helpful to you, that is great, but you have to try to get some stability without it being all up to him so that he can also depend on you if the time comes and so that he doesn't ever get to the point where it becomes too much of a burden for him to carry. I think you would be better off taking the medication and seeing a therpist, to help you become more stable in yourself and not so dependent on another person, for the simple fact that we never know what tomorrow will bring and it is good if we can be strong on our own when we need to be. I hope things get better for you.

Robs not doing everything. He's helping me do things. There was a time where I wouldn't go ANYWHERE alone & now I'm pretty good at going places on my own. I also never looked for my own jobs & "I" got myself a nice happy job at Samsung! I use to NEVER talk to people I didn't know & now I talk up a storm to anyone who says hi to me, I don't go out of my way to talk to people, yet. I use to get really scared if a stranger yelled at me for something I accidently did wrong. Now I will choose to ignor them or tell them off (depends on the situation).
7 years ago, I would NEVER have made plans to go to the zoo with people I didn't know & now I'm going with 2 people I don't know this june!

[Vela]

Well I'm glad you have been able to come so far, that's great. I just hope at some point you are able to gain some strength in yourself so that you won't need his help to do things that would be great. I wasn't cutting you down or trying to be rude.

[king2005]

I don't want to talk about this anymore, you guys were right, hes left me..

[Cinder & Smoke]

"I" got myself a nice happy job at Samsung!

Remember that YOU got this job -
and Take Care OF It - maintain your concentration, effort, and productivity ...
don't let yourself "worry" about things and damage your productivity.

Keeping your JOB is important for you to be able to Take Care of YOURSELF -
which you CAN DO!!

We'll all be Praying for your Success!!

/s/ Phred

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[Cat's Meowm]

YOU will be okay. You will make it. You will be fine! I know You have it in yourself! Believe me - You're gonna make it!

[Vela]

Remember that YOU got this job -
and Take Care OF It - maintain your concentration, effort, and productivity ...
don't let yourself "worry" about things and damage your productivity.

Keeping your JOB is important for you to be able to Take Care of YOURSELF -
which you CAN DO!!

We'll all be Praying for your Success!!

/s/ Phred

..

I couldn't agree more, well said. Don't give up on yourself, you can do what you need to do.