Rob didn't come home lastnight

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

Btw, who is Rob?? Is he your husband or friend?

[king2005]

We're not married, but we've been in a 7yr relationship, so by law, he is my husband.

[king2005]

We just found out where he's been & why he was ignoring his phone.
He fell asleep in the server room. Apparently it was a MAJOR server that went down & it had to go back up ASAP!

It feels like a HUGE weight has been lifted off my chest.

I'm very attached to Rob as he's really all I have. I'm also not fully dependent (mentally) so it scares the hell out of me that I couldn't reach him. If I loose Rob, I'd have to move to PEI & live with dad or my sister, or atleast very close to them. Stupid Anxity <_< I can care for pets of any kind, but not myself <_<

Thanks everyone for the support, it was helpful.



Tom took me to the Mall cause he knew I needed to get my mind off it. I bought some things Rob & I needed, socks & undies & I bought a COOL PLANT!!! Its an Irish Shamrock! It has MASSIVE purple shamrocks & has pretty pink flowers!

[kuhio98]

I'm very attached to Rob as he's really all I have. I'm also not fully dependent (mentally) so it scares the hell out of me that I couldn't reach him. If I loose Rob, I'd have to move to PEI & live with dad or my sister, or atleast very close to them. Stupid Anxity <_< I can care for pets of any kind, but not myself <_<

Did you mean that you're not fully independent?
Are you doing anything to change that? therapy, medication, etc.?

[king2005]

Did you mean that you're not fully independent?
Are you doing anything to change that? therapy, medication, etc.?

Rob's helping me out. I'm having far less attaks. My attacks were high, then I met Rob & they went to med-low & now I hardly get them. Unless something big happeneds, but they are no longer random.

A few Dr's wanted to put me on meds, but I have ripped up the prescriptions, as I want to help myself.. well let Rob help me... He's getting me to do things I really don't want to do, like answer the phone & call the super when something breaks. We're doing lots & its working, but I NEED Rob.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Glad you got hold of him at last - maybe you won't panic quite so much if it happens again

[kuhio98]

A few Dr's wanted to put me on meds, but I have ripped up the prescriptions, as I want to help myself.. well let Rob help me... He's getting me to do things I really don't want to do, like answer the phone & call the super when something breaks. We're doing lots & its working, but I NEED Rob.

Well, that's a lot of pressure to put on another person. I'm glad it's working out for you. I hope in time, that you see that you can count on yourself to handle daily life. You are your own best friend. It just takes practice to learn to trust yourself. And trust that you will be able to handle whatever life throws at you. Sure, it's nice to have another to share with. But, it's a 2-way street. You have to be in a place where the other person can count on you too. And, I think taking the medication would be a way to help yourself. To take responsibility for your own well-being. Not so dependant on another for your comfort level. Best wishes to you and Rob.

[Vela]

Well, that's a lot of pressure to put on another person. I'm glad it's working out for you. I hope in time, that you see that you can count on yourself to handle daily life. You are your own best friend. It just takes practice to learn to trust yourself. And trust that you will be able to handle whatever life throws at you. Sure, it's nice to have another to share with. But, it's a 2-way street. You have to be in a place where the other person can count on you too. And, I think taking the medication would be a way to help yourself. To take responsibility for your own well-being. Not so dependant on another for your comfort level. Best wishes to you and Rob.

I agree with you. It's very hard on someone to have to responsible for someone else's stability and happiness in life. It becomes very draining over time and can cause problems in the long run. I know this by watching people I know struggle with it and sometimes it becomes too much for the relationship. I am glad he is so helpful to you, that is great, but you have to try to get some stability without it being all up to him so that he can also depend on you if the time comes and so that he doesn't ever get to the point where it becomes too much of a burden for him to carry. I think you would be better off taking the medication and seeing a therpist, to help you become more stable in yourself and not so dependent on another person, for the simple fact that we never know what tomorrow will bring and it is good if we can be strong on our own when we need to be. I hope things get better for you.