It can be hurtful

[dog_pug123]

But I've been here since the beggning of February and I know everyone. But everyone doesn't know me?...

[Flatcoatluver]

You may think you know everyone but I have been here for half a year and I am still getting to know people that our here for years.

[dog_pug123]

I've seen boards that say 'Where is _______' or 'Have you seen _______', but I was gone for a week or so and did not see even one of those for me. I don't want this to turn into an argument I just wanted everyone to know that I am hurt and will be for a bit.

[Kfamr]

And I want you to understand that it is NOT personal!

Give it time and become a pillar of PT.

Even after being here for 5 years, I hit my 20,000 mark a month or so ago and did anyone notice?? NOPE... Not even my closest PT friends! People have lives, growing families, and their personal business to tend to. So I've learned not to take it personally, and hopefully you can do the same.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Hang in there sweetheart - I know how you feel but can also reassure you that when you most need PTers they are right here for you!

[dog_pug123]

Hang in there sweetheart - I know how you feel but can also reassure you that when you most need PTers they are right here for you!

Thank you. Messages like yours really make me feel better.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Here's the proof

http://petoftheday.com/talk/showthre...8&page=2&pp=15

not to mention how many of us are praying for Glacier's Delta to come home

[IRescue452]

Sorry I don't have times to look for all the posts with no responses and post for them. Nobody here is trying to hurt you or others. If you delete your own posts and get grumpy then how are we supposed to react. I've gotten posts with no responses but I've never attacked the people on the board for it. So nobody wrote anything, boohoo. sometimes the view is all you need. Pictures are cute and you can guarentee everybody who viewed them thought they were adorable, but maybe for some reason or another they didn't have time to write the awws that they felt.

[BOBS DAD]

I don't know how long I've been a member... but it has been longer than the beginning of February (I think, maybe not), I am only now beginning to recognize names and associate with their pets, interests, etc.. I try to view the public profiles so I can know a little bit more about the people and their posts. I think people won't post a reply sometimes if they feel it can be misconstrued or simply they don't know what to say. But they still enjoy browsing. I personally don't like it when people intentionally bump their posts... I like to let them run their course. Also, I love my Bob, but I try to control myself from posting too many photos or always talking about him exclusively. I do agree with you that we should give what we get (I think the Beatles said something like that). If people have responded to me and my posts, then I try to make a point to respond to as many others, if not more.

Truth be told, some posts are simply more interesting than others. Also, back to one of my original points. It is hard for say, an older man (me - 47), a father and a family man to sometimes know what's appropriate to younger members (teens and young adults). With so much internet luring going on (I worry about it with my own kids - 20, 17 & 12), it's hard to know if it is OK to be too cozy. Sometimes I want to say, Happy Birthday, your profile picture is very cute, I used to work in Minnesota, etc., etc., in response to interesting publicly posted info. But then, I say, "better not", might be misconstrued as a pervert trying to lure someone.

So, I think patience is key! The longer you, I and others are members, the more we will see of each other and the more comfortable we will become. I can tell this from viewing (but not always posting replys) the interaction between some of the longer PT members!!!

[Alysser]

I don't know you that well. You don't post alot or as much about yourself. I used to think it was hurtful when I first joined. Sassy's pictures never got that many replies and now they do. Patience.

[Flatcoatluver]

Yeah Alyssa that's a very good point, people don't reply very often unless they get to know you.

[dog_pug123]

I don't know you that well. You don't post alot or as much about yourself. I used to think it was hurtful when I first joined. Sassy's pictures never got that many replies and now they do. Patience.

I'll post lots about myself in the Introductions board then. Hopefully people will reply.

[dog_pug123]

I'm going to try that.

I go around the boards looking to see if it says '0' in the replies zone so people don't have the same feelings as me. I wish other people could do the same. I'm trying not to take it personally and in a hour or so the had feelings with be over. Just wanted to share.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

And I want you to understand that it is NOT personal!

Give it time and become a pillar of PT.

Even after being here for 5 years, I hit my 20,000 mark a month or so ago and did anyone notice?? NOPE... Not even my closest PT friends! People have lives, growing families, and their personal business to tend to. So I've learned not to take it personally, and hopefully you can do the same.

Ooooops! Belated congratulations and mega-cyber party???

Sensitive bunch aren't we? I had a sulk because no one noticed my 2000 but this weekend, when I have really needed love and support, PT has come through with flying colours. No responses doesn't mean we don't care

[dab_20]

I'm sorry you feel that way. Lots of people don't have time or they don't know what to say. Maybe because SOME people don't know you. It all takes time to get to know everyone here. I know most people on the dog and pet side, but still have alot of people to get to know on the cat side. I've been here for a little more then a half a year.