I am so sorry for your loss. I don't think we ever get over losing them. We just learn to live without them. And have faith that we will be reunited again.

When Kuhio passed away after 17 years, I remember being truly surprised that the sun rose the next day. How could it? My life was over. But, in time you learn to laugh and smile again when you remember your precious baby. They want us to be happy, so we do our best.

This poem helped me when I wasn't sure if I was brave enough to open my heart to another baby. I hope it helps you.

Fragile Circle by Irving Townsend

"We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own,
live within a fragile circle, easily and often breached.
Unable to accept its awful gaps, we still would live no other way.
We cherish memory as the only certain immortality,
never fully understanding the necessary plan."