In depair but I know I can confide in PT

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

Being a mom to 2 adopted kids, I can only advize this: ADOPTION !!! That little baby deserves a happy loving family ! By giving it the chance of being adopted, is giving it the absolute chance of being happy!!!

[catnapper]

How is everything going?

I asked hubby what he would do if either of our girls were in this situation.... and he's saying the same thing your hubby is: He's her dad and whatever she did, he'd help her through. He went so far as to say he'd officially adopt the baby to save her from the mother. But really, how much help is it? She's still not getting the proper help she needs.

I am so sorry that you're stuck in the middle like this.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

He went so far as to say he'd officially adopt the baby to save her from the mother.

Hope this doesn't sound heartless but there is no way I'd even consider that. I don't want any more children and am certainly not going to give up my "freedom" because it wouldn't be her Dad looking after baby.....it would be down to me

[Sweet Sixy]

I am glad to hear you sent her info. on CARE. There are many groups in most communities that can help women out who are in her situation. There are also groups that offer services to moms who need it, such as helping with daycare, parenting education, counseling services etc. I am a caseworker and see these sort of situations quite often. Some people can not stand to give up a child, however if they don't take the steps necessary that child may be taken away from them without them ever getting the option. I hope that she can find her way and be able to give her children the happy live that kids deserve...I wish you and your family the best of luck with the situation.

[Pawsitive Thinking]

An appointment has been made for her to go to the hospital next week for a scan to see how far gone she actually is. If 12 weeks or under the "procedure" will be done there and then but if more than 12 weeks (which it will be) she will be given a pessary and have to give birth the next day..........................

(If she times it right this could all happen on the first anniversary of my Dad's death..........)

[Maresche]

I'm sorry to hear this is the route she has chosen.

Positive thoughts to you all that this go and quickly and smoothly as possible.

[catnapper]

I'm sorry to hear this is the route she chose.

Lets hope you can get some sense into her so that there will never ever be a "next time"

PS:

Hope this doesn't sound heartless but there is no way I'd even consider that. I don't want any more children and am certainly not going to give up my "freedom" because it wouldn't be her Dad looking after baby.....it would be down to me

I missed this earlier. I agree myself. If I wanted a baby fulltime in my life right now, I'd have married another man who could give me one. I have freely admitted many times that I am too selfish to be a mother to a baby. I will eagerly be a grandmother, but one to a baby who eventually goes home with mom and dad!