I realize every situation is different, but she even stated that ignoring her was helping, and that should always try to be the first recourse. IF that doesn't work and things escalate to causing real physical harm, and not just silly comments, I can see trying to do something about it but if ignoring this particular girl does help, it is a much better solution than the other options. There is just no reason to antagnoize it if the ignoring works. No that doesn't always work, and sometimes you need to try other things, but that should always be the first option to try, rather than inflaming the situation. No, what has happened in her life to make her behave in such a way is no excuse to do so, but it's better to try to be the better person and have pity on them that they treat others so poorly, since it will really only hurt themselves in the end. I know because you are younger you guys don't really understand that as much yet, I know it's hard to deal with, all us "old folks" were kids once too=)

Nowdays throwing a punch usually is not the best option, simply for the fact that you never know what that can bring on later on. There are way too many kids with weapons in schools nowdays or outside of schools looking to harm others and it's become much more frequent. Sometimes kids snap and do horrid things because they feel picked on or for whatever odd reason. No it doesn't happen every day, but it does happen with increasing frequency and I just think IF a peaceful solution can be found it's always the best option. But if someone puched me in the head I would probably punch them back as well. Of course these are all just my "old lady" opinions=) My kids, 13, 12, and 10 deal with much of the same types of things and at least for now ignoring it has worked better than anything else.