In depair but I know I can confide in PT

[Pawsitive Thinking]

Wow, when you put it that way... you must be pretty frustrated with her situation (I know I would be). I'm not even sure what you can do, she needs to decide to make the change on her own.

Very hard to remain detached when you see the amount of pain she causes - then of course I'm the bad guy because I refuse to have her kids stay at weekends to give her a break. I work ( ) all week and selfish as it may sound if I'd wanted more children I'd have had my own!

[JenBKR]

Very hard to remain detached when you see the amount of pain she causes - then of course I'm the bad guy because I refuse to have her kids stay at weekends to give her a break. I work ( ) all week and selfish as it may sound if I'd wanted more children I'd have had my own!

That is certainly not being the bad guy at all - and not selfish. I can't imagine that being a stepparent would be easy at all, then throw this situation into the mix...how does your husband feel about it all?

[Pawsitive Thinking]

That is certainly not being the bad guy at all - and not selfish. I can't imagine that being a stepparent would be easy at all, then throw this situation into the mix...how does your husband feel about it all?

She breaks his heart - has to support her because he's her Dad but he is ripped apart every time. Makes it hard for Katie too because he is so determined that she won't go the same way he pushes her too hard at times

I'd be first to admit that SD hasn't had it easy - her Dad brought her up on his own and her Mum only ever appeared when she felt like it although is back on the scene now (like mother like daughter unfortunately). But surely there has to come a time when you stop blaming a c**p childhood and move on doesn't there