Should I do something??

[Alysser]

Well, yesterday it worked! I was walking Sassy and she was outside with her friends. She came over to me and said something but I ignored her and continued walking Sassy. Sassy seemed to ignore her to. Well, obviously Sassy got tired of her and started growling. Then barking and tugging at the leash. She got scared of what she once called a "munchkin" dog. She ran off but kept looking at me.

Thank you everyone! Vela, I knew that. Ignoring her is working and I really think she does have a horrible life. She ALWAYS complains and stuff. Agian, thanks

[Vela]

Good job! I'm glad it worked. Hopefully over time she will just give up when she realizes she can't make you feel bad.

[Alysser]

Thanks! I am going to the mall today and she'll be there. But agian I'll just avoid her.

[BC_MoM]

You know,...

Here's my two cents after being severely bullied for 3 years, and eventually being ordered by cops to move to a new school division for fear something bad would happen.

Alyssa, you're right. You CAN'T ignore them. So many people told me that when the bullying start. "Ignore them and they'll realize they're not aggravating you". NO ONE understood that you can't ignore them. They're like a parrot glued to your shoulder. Even some kids who were bullied said to ignore them, when them themselves couldn't ignore them. Some advice.

Best thing is to always be with a friend if you can. That way you're not alone, and easier to target. I don't know about you, but my friends were afraid of the bully, too, so they never stuck up for me.

I never tried this.. but when she's says something, laugh at her.. laugh really loud. Or, partionize her.

The girl: "You're a loser."
You: "You know, you're right. You know me really well. You're right. I AM a loser. I just never saw it until now!!!"

But if this gets really serious, Alyssa, and nothing is working.. throw a punch at her. *waits to be attacked from PT members for that one*

I'm not kidding. If you throw a good one at her and hit her, she'll be afraid of you for a while.

I never tried that either, though, but what I've heard from my aunt's and uncle's who were bullied because of their Irish accents when they came here, it worked for them. And the bullies never bugged them again.

I never tried a lot of stuff because the bullies destroyed my self-esteem, and self-confidence. And I still don't have it back today; 4 years later.

Just don't let it get as far as it got for me, Alyssa... I'd hate to see anyone in the same state as me. <33

[CagneyDog]

But if this gets really serious, Alyssa, and nothing is working.. throw a punch at her. *waits to be attacked from PT members for that one*

I'm sorry but that would be the WORST thing to ever do. Maybe she would be scared off but most likely she'll get someone else involved then. Her friends will probably all gang up on you. She coud also charge you....

[BC_MoM]

I'm sorry but that would be the WORST thing to ever do. Maybe she would be scared off but most likely she'll get someone else involved then. Her friends will probably all gang up on you. She coud also charge you....

Probably not the worst. Sorry. But that's coming from a victim's point of view.

[CagneyDog]

Probably not the worst. Sorry. But that's coming from a victim's point of view.

I realize that. I've also been a victim, and I remain to be a victim of bullying. I don't see how physically injuring someone will help anything.

[Miss Z]

I see BC Mom's point. I've not suffered from bad bullying, most teasing is just trying to annoy me and i shake it off and just tell them that they're idiots, and they usually just laugh, so it's not really on bad terms i suppose. But yes, if i was a victim of bad bullying, i definitely would hit them, after many threats of course. I wouldn't mess around ignoring the bully or telling tales to teachers, i'm a lancashire lass and i deal with things myself and don't beat around the bush. I'm surprised that the girl who's been annoying Alyssa actually stopped when she ignored her, i would have thought that she would try to annoy her more.

I also liked your response to 'you're a loser' BC MoM. Did that actually happen? Gawd, someone calling you a loser is so childish and petty, but that response is really mature and witty. I like it!

[Vette]

I don't see how physically injuring someone will help anything.

Ditto....

never hurt anyone because of something as stupid as this. it could really 'land slide' on you in more ways then one. may make her hound your butt even more and get her 'buddies' in on it.

[beeniesmom]

throw a punch at her. *waits to be attacked from PT members for that one* <33

I was bullied for months in the 7th grade.
I have to say that I did ignore the person for months but it got worse until one day... I did throw a good punch at her..... she never bothered me again.

I know it's not good advice but it worked for me.

[JenBKR]

Do you have an older sibling or friend that could help at all? My sister was terrorized by a girl down the street from us, she'd bully her at the bus stop, on the bus, and at school. She was too embarrased to tell me at first, but she finally did tell me. I'm about 2 1/2 years older than her, so I was in 10th or 11th grade at the time. I told a friend of mine to meet me at the bus stop one morning. When we got there, we talked to 'Brandy' (the girl bullying my sis). I pretty much told her that if she ever so much as looked at my sis again it would be the last thing she'd ever do (and I'm not a strong person, about 5'9 135 lbs., so not like I'm real big and scary either). She never bothered her again, in fact, she started smiling at her and being SUPER sweet to me.

[Alysser]

My parents don't want to get involved. My sister is to evil to help. But maybe, my other friend could help. I'll just have to see.

[I_luv_rusty]

My parents don't want to get involved. My sister is to evil to help. But maybe, my other friend could help. I'll just have to see.

My Mom doesn't want me so much as talking to her anywhere! She says to leave her alone, but i'm not going to she talks to me, I talk to her! My mom also says don't get into a cat fight, and my brother is here showing me all this punches, and kicks, and telling me to pull her hair, etc. if she is a bitch.

[I_luv_rusty]

Do you have an older sibling or friend that could help at all? My sister was terrorized by a girl down the street from us, she'd bully her at the bus stop, on the bus, and at school. She was too embarrased to tell me at first, but she finally did tell me. I'm about 2 1/2 years older than her, so I was in 10th or 11th grade at the time. I told a friend of mine to meet me at the bus stop one morning. When we got there, we talked to 'Brandy' (the girl bullying my sis). I pretty much told her that if she ever so much as looked at my sis again it would be the last thing she'd ever do (and I'm not a strong person, about 5'9 135 lbs., so not like I'm real big and scary either). She never bothered her again, in fact, she started smiling at her and being SUPER sweet to me.

I have a older brother who's 13 turning 14 in March. She doesn't even care what he says to her, on the bus he always listen to her fighting with me, and fights back sometimes (he sits in front of me) and she doesn't care she just calls us gay, then I say your acting gay! and she says NOO don't EVER use that word again, gay is my word!!! So I say what are you going to do kill me? (she threated to kill my friend, though she has never ammited (sp?)she did)

[Miss Z]

I have a older brother who's 13 turning 14 in March. She doesn't even care what he says to her, on the bus he always listen to her fighting with me, and fights back sometimes (he sits in front of me) and she doesn't care she just calls us gay, then I say your acting gay! and she says NOO don't EVER use that word again, gay is my word!!! So I say what are you going to do kill me? (she threated to kill my friend, though she has never ammited (sp?)she did)

She sounds so annoying, in my school she wouldn't be tolerated and would be totally friendless. Gay is her word? Tell her to treasure this little sentence, that she is the most childish person ever and to you she is an insignificant blot on the peaceful landscape of your life (my friend loved to say that, works every time!)