Well as I said in my update the decison is put off a while so I guess that gives time for hospice to work with family . I think I'm going to call the one here for us . Hubby seems to be ok but he's hard to read . We both know it's the best thing (after having to face his possible death from his cancer ) we have a perpective they don't. Praying for them to see and talk to her about the chioces she has. Thanks to you all again we do feel the power of the prayers.