Depending on the age of children include them Mine always helped me make a special dinner we would eat it in some where special in the house. As the kids got older they planned and did the dinner . They would serve us and they would eat in the kitchen . My daughter just loved it she'd pick some soft music and make decorations , they got to use their imaginations. I have great memories and pictures some of the decrations sill. We will be celebrating our 27th anniversery in March. we have a 22yr old boy and 24 year od daughter (my last year not being a grannie daughter pregnant)