Is this correct or incorrect

[Dixieland Dancer]

I think we've made this memeber feel bad enough. This person IS from another country and maybe the grammar isn't perfect, the spelling or capitalization when needed, but who cares? You know the question they are asking don't you? Just answer the question and stop the smart a** remarks.

Very well said, Anna. I don't frequent PT as much as I use to for this very reason. Too many people are quick to look for faults instead of being helpful and nice. It's always done in the disquise of a "joke". If we all stop to think about it, we all have something that makes us different and if everyone "joked" about it, we could all end up feeling worse instead of better. Kindness and caring go a lot further than sarcasm and rudeness. Kind of like a true alpha dog vs. a dominant or aggressive one (described more below). This particular person isn't even from this country.

About the issue of this thread....

Muskwa is the boss dog and I honestly can't remember him ever being involved in a major fight. I believe a true alpha dog doesn't need to resort to aggression to assert his dominance and that true alphas are rare. Dominance and dog aggression are not neccessarily signs of a good alpha dog.

This statement says it all. Too many people get Alpha dog, dominance and aggression mixed up. They are not the same. Because you have an aggressive dog does not make him an alpha dog. Because your dog is dominant does not make him a true alpha. My Dixie is exactly like Glaciers Muskwa.... a true alpha female but not dominant or aggressive. She's never been in a dog fight because other dogs just know she is top dog. Dominant or Aggressive dogs are either possessive or insecure in something. True alpha dogs are very secure in their position. I never have to worry about Dixie because she is secure in knowing she is the Queen so she doesn't have to defend her status by fighting or being aggressive.

Even though I know Dixie is the alpha dog in the pack, her status is only that in the dog world. As her pack leader, I am alpha over her, always! So it's MY choice who I pet first or feed first. This just helps me solidify myself as alpha over them both. This fact is solidified from the time they are pups because I am the one who gives them everything Great in their life when they listen to me! I am not afraid to withhold something great if they are not willing to listen to me all the time. This is usually kibble during training. Eventually they realize "do what she says and I'll get what I want too"!

However, that being said.... I do not have two dominant (not true alpha) dogs battling. If there are two dogs that are constantly battling and the loser (lower pack rank) is constantly shown favoritism because it always loses and you feel sorry for it, you are creating a very instable pack order. The winner must be acknowledged so the battles will stop. In this situation you can affirm the dogs established pack order amongst themselves by petting, feeding, etc, the dominant or aggressive dog first. Even though I am alpha over them all, I still try to recognize their pack order and honor it so less friction will be in the pack in general. That is also a sign of a good alpha leader!

So in short... if you are not having issues, you chose who you want to greet first. Like others who have posted in this tread, it is usually the dog who responds first or shows up first. If you are having issues with dogs battling then you need to recognize what you need to do to make things more harmonious for everyone. If the dog does not recognize you as the leader of the pack, then you need to train the dog to realize all good things come for you. Only you can answer how this will be handled.

[Corinna]

Catnapper I have the number thing too. I would most likely have a lot of letter problems if I had not been given the love of reading and books. I am also LOUSEY TYPIST too. I'm just learning the key board so I make lots of mistakes, too.

[Cataholic]

Very well said, Anna. I don't frequent PT as much as I use to for this very reason. Too many people are quick to look for faults instead of being helpful and nice. It's always done in the disquise of a "joke". If we all stop to think about it, we all have something that makes us different and if everyone "joked" about it, we could all end up feeling worse instead of better. Kindness and caring go a lot further than sarcasm and rudeness.

It was a joke. And, the irony is....somehow, in your world, you think YOUR comments somehow fly under the radar? You are three times more venomous in your attack on my comments than I was on the original poster. It was a joke. JOKE. What is the saying? Judge not lest you be judged? I always liked this one: It is the pot calling the kettle black.

And, btw, she might live outside the US, however, English is the mother tongue in GB, I believe.

[Dixieland Dancer]

It was a joke. And, the irony is....somehow, in your world, you think YOUR comments somehow fly under the radar? You are three times more venomous in your attack on my comments than I was on the original poster. It was a joke. JOKE. What is the saying? Judge not lest you be judged? I always liked this one: It is the pot calling the kettle black.

And, btw, she might live outside the US, however, English is the mother tongue in GB, I believe.

In MY world, the comments would never of needed to fly under the radar because I would of just answered the girls question or ignored it. No joke!

I will not be replying to this thread anymore. I hope the advice I did post is useful to answering the original question juju posted.

[.sarah]

It was a joke. And, the irony is....somehow, in your world, you think YOUR comments somehow fly under the radar? You are three times more venomous in your attack on my comments than I was on the original poster. It was a joke. JOKE. What is the saying? Judge not lest you be judged? I always liked this one: It is the pot calling the kettle black.

I think that was a pretty lame and cruel joke. A polite "Please use better spelling and punctuation" would have been much easier to swallow.

[Cataholic]

.sarah- Lame and cruel? You must be joking yourself. Cruel? LOLOL...come on. I can appreciate you not having the same sense of humor as I might, and others too, seeing the comments after my post, but, to call it cruel? Might be a bit over the top there.

DD-As for the flying under the radar comment, I can see now why you missed the joke first time around. I am not sure you are reading things quite right. Seems you have no problem expressing YOUR thoughts on others comments, just as long as I keep mine to myself. Seems pretty fair, eh? LOL...pretty fair indeed. How do you manage that halo just so, please tell me. Oh, now I must go cry by myself to sleep...you have just been TOO harsh and unfair to me.

[CagneyDog]

I wish people would stop using dyslexia as a crutch and excuse

I totally agree. However, people spell things wrong here all the time. All of the younger PT'ers have every second word spelt wrong. I am not sure why everyone is going after juju?

[Cataholic]

CD- I wasn't "going after" the OP. Despite the person's comment that I was hiding behind the term 'joke', I truly was JOKING. When I read the post, that WAS the first thing that came to my mind. The grammar. It was funny to me. It was a play on words, really. The excuse of dyslexia was kind of weak...and really, I think a slap in the face to anyone that does have it, and struggles to not be limited or labeled by it. To think that dsylexia causes someone to not capitolize (Vela- did I spell it right this time?) correctly is a little off.

I can't figure out why some of these people are all so upset about this. It seems a little overboard to me, really.

[CagneyDog]

I wasn't "going after" the OP

Where did I say YOU were going after her?

I know your first post was a joke, I found it funny myself but I think you knew that it wasn't going to be percieved as a joke. Jokes can be hurtful too...