Quite a few years ago now, my sister in law's father committed suicide. I will never forget the night that she called me. He was a big, tall, blustery kind of guy - always ready with a smile and a good joke or two. I had spent many an evening with he and his wife and enjoyed them immensely. They had worked hard all of their life in their own business and had successes.

At first I was so upset for my sis in law - and upset for my niece and nephew.
This was their Grandfather! Then I was angry - good and angry with him - how could he leave this legacy for his wife - his children and grandchildren?

But in time, I tried to understand. He had cancer - there was no hope - and he was already taking the strongest pain killers and morphine and it promised to get worse. He couldn't face that - and he didn't wish that on his wife.
So he took his own life.

A natural death is one thing - but suicide is just difficult to wrap yourself around and understand.

We are not in their heads - we don't know what they are thinking - how desperate they must be to chose this end. So it leaves us - the family and the friends numb.

My heart goes out to you - your child and of course, your Mom. You must feel abandoned - and indeed you have been.

This thing called Pet Talk - it brings so many different people together with so many experiences - and we can all put them in the pot and take a look at them. We are all in THIS together.

We won't let you down - and will help you in any way that we can.

I am so sorry for your loss - it will take time.............to heal.