Did I do the right thing? (Advice needed)

[senorita02]

He sounds like a total pig & like you said it may be funny to say that stuff to your good friend, but not to a co worker especially over the email, and this day and age, that could be sexual harrasment, he sure sounds like an idiot, and i would of been offended too, you dont just go around saying stuff like that to people you dont know, shows a lack of respect, you did the right thing, although i would proabably be feeling like you do , too, you cant let that stop you from doing the right thing, who knows he may of kept on with raunchier things to come , to the point where it got really bad!

[Karen]

We have all heard the quote:

Edmund Burke said, ‘The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing

This quote applies in big and small situations.

If you had not said anything, he could have gone on blissfully thinking there was nothing wrong with tht kind of statement. If he gets fired, it is still not your fault. He made the inappropriate comment, not you!

You did the right thing.

You did the right thing.

You did the right thing.

You did the right thing.

[moosmom]

Samantha Puppy,

YOU DID THE RIGHT THING!!! If he's done it in the past, he'll keep on doing it until he's put in his place. Do NOT feel guilty. People like him cannot go around saying stuff like that without consequences. Let the higher ups deal with him. That's why they get paid the big bucks. You did nothing wrong.

[Cataholic]

Wow. Hate to weigh in as the minority here...but, I wouldn't have EVER said anything to a boss, etc. This guy will get in serious trouble, probably, for something I bet wasn't meant at all.

Now, I am NOT saying sexually offensive jokes have their place in the workplace, but, sheesh, it might have been an 'innocent' but, inappropriate, comment.

I would have sent an email back and said, "uh, I bet you didn't mean to offend me, but, you did. I don't talk like that, email like that, and would prefer if you left me out of that sort of stuff".

Of course, if he continued to be like that with you, I would have said something to someone.

[caseysmom]

I 100 percent think you did the right thing. I am actually more offended by his racial slur than anything, what a racist bigoted pig. I have never heard the slang he said to you but it was obviously derogatory to you and to african americans.

[elizabethann]

I think you did the right thing.

Did your boss talk to this co-worker yet about the situation? I'm thinking he may get a warning of some kind. He may get a verbal warning or a written warning. Heck, he may even get fired. I like to joke around with my co-workers and we can push it pretty far. But it sounds like that guy went too far and crossed the line.

He has to learn he can't say things like that. It's inappropriate. And the fact he wrote it in an email? He's dumb, for sure.

[Samantha Puppy]

Well I just found out that about a month after he began here (December '04), he was given a warning because he said something that offended another coworker. I also found out that his previous job was contractual and that it wasn't renewed because his old coworkers had such an issue with him saying inappropriate things. So this is definitely not a new thing with him.

Cataholic, I don't think it was meant maliciously but given his history of saying stupid things (some of which I was aware, some of which I wasn't until just now), he's got to learn what sort of behavior is appropriate in the workplace. He doesn't know me well. The e-mail between us leading up to that comment wasn't provocative in nature at all which makes the comment even worse - it came out of left field. That takes a little bit of the innocence out of it for me... As I mentioned before, this guy and I are not friends. If he has the gall to say something like that to me, what's to stop him from saying something like that to a coworker from another office or worse yet, a client?

I am not a nasty or malicious person. I hate confrontation. If I had a position in this company that allowed me to remove myself from certain people's company, that would've been my course of action. But I can't do that - I'm the administrative assistant and my job is to assist everyone. I really didn't see any other route to take...

[moosmom]

I'm the administrative assistant and my job is to assist everyone. I really didn't see any other route to take

With all due respect, given this guy's history, you do NOT need to explain or apologize for the way you handled it. I admire you for keeping your cool through it all. I wouldn't have been as nice.