Interesting thread. I remember POSILQ from way back too. I like the sound of it, at least it sounds more interesting than domestic partner, SO, etc. I am married, but I didn't change my last name. So I get these looks like "who are you?" sometimes when we get introduced, go places together, fill out forms, and such. Even though we're married, we still refer to each other as best friend or partner. My good friend & her POSILQ had a "committment ceremony" instead of a wedding, I think just to placate other family members. I'm glad at least whoever you choose is given more legal rights & ins. benefits than years ago. The love & life you share is the important thing!