Love that poem. Believe it or not- that term of POSSLQ made it to the back section of my memory some 20 years ago- I believe I read it in Scientific American and never forgot it

Again: when I had surgery 11 years ago, I signed in the paperwork that Siegmar should be able to visit me in ICU after. They said everything would be ok and then they didn't let him see me. And I was just too weak to do what I would have done else- which would be more than a medium drama

But after that we knew this might never happen again. Just in case: if I had fallen into koma or whatever (it was one of the risks) whom could I have trusted but him to close the lines

Now we still have different names. And I'm not just "the family member".