"Significant Other"

[Barbara]

Love that poem. Believe it or not- that term of POSSLQ made it to the back section of my memory some 20 years ago- I believe I read it in Scientific American and never forgot it

Again: when I had surgery 11 years ago, I signed in the paperwork that Siegmar should be able to visit me in ICU after. They said everything would be ok and then they didn't let him see me. And I was just too weak to do what I would have done else- which would be more than a medium drama

But after that we knew this might never happen again. Just in case: if I had fallen into koma or whatever (it was one of the risks) whom could I have trusted but him to close the lines

Now we still have different names. And I'm not just "the family member".

[Oggyflute]

Both Carole and myself use the term "partner". We have never had an actual ceremony as funnily enough,we just never seem to have a grand or two spare to put a "wedding" on. We had our own private ceremony, were we exchanged rings and pledged our life to each other, and in all honesty, thats good enough for me. No doubt we will get around to it one year. My brother in law is a minister and would just love to do the honor's. We have just celebrated our 8th anniversary together. So it's just "partner's" in love & life, always.

[cyber-sibes]

Interesting thread. I remember POSILQ from way back too. I like the sound of it, at least it sounds more interesting than domestic partner, SO, etc. I am married, but I didn't change my last name. So I get these looks like "who are you?" sometimes when we get introduced, go places together, fill out forms, and such. Even though we're married, we still refer to each other as best friend or partner. My good friend & her POSILQ had a "committment ceremony" instead of a wedding, I think just to placate other family members. I'm glad at least whoever you choose is given more legal rights & ins. benefits than years ago. The love & life you share is the important thing!