Well where to start. I know how Matt feels in a lot of aspects. My parents divorced when I was younger and I had trouble dealing with it until I turned 22. It is very wonderful that you want to "help" him, but right now the help you can offer is an ear for him to chew on, a shoulder to lean on and compassion. He should see a professional regarding his feeling just so he can learn that he can't keep them bottled up. As far as the baby thing went he is probably insecure about how much it will change his life. When my father started a family with his new wife after my mother it was like the rest of us took a back seat to them, and that may be scaring him.