Guilty by association? (sort of)

[grybai]

No, I don't think anyone would automatically think you were just like your husband. (though to be honest, with children, especially younger children, I often see them as a reflection of their parents even though it may not be the case). However, I do think someone might think there is something wrong with your relationship, that he is emotionally abusive and may think there's something wrong with you that you stay with him. I don't really know your situation, no one else really knows what goes on behind closed doors. However, whether or not you are happy in your relationship, I do think other people will assume that it is a very negative one.

[DJFyrewolf36]

I feel sorry for nice people who seem to be stuck with miserable people but then again I realize that there has to be some reason why they are with who they are with. My husband can be a real un-diplomatic jerk at times. He's never been good at dealing with places that work like a burocracy and he will fly off the handle if he thinks he's being jerked around. I always joke that the reason he married me is because I have a special talent for dealing with red tape . I keep him calm and collected, and I'll admit he's gotten better about blowing up at people.

People aren't the same in public as they are behind the closed doors at home, so I try not to assume that a persons actions in public reflect thier true nature. Heck, people chage from day to day and if someone is having a rotten day, why should I assume they are just a miserable pain all the time?

I'm a firm believer in the concept of getting to know people before judging them. .