Thank you to all, the advice you give is great! That's exactly why I posted about this to get everyones feedback, parent or not. And I too feel, that if she wants to be treated as an adult, she should act like one. We plan on giving her responsibilities and an allowence, since she can't really get a job yet, but there are some people I work with that will be able to let her babysit. There will be consequences to the things she does wrong, and praise for what she does right. I have had a little while to think things thru, and I talked to her yesterday, and she told me point blank, "I know it's gonna be different than just coming up for the summer(the $ I'd spend on her!!), I know I'll have chores. We've always told her if she was ever able to come and live with us, things would be different, but that don't mean we can't have fun too!!! Only 10 more days, guess I better get my stuff out of her room and into the other. Oh ya, that is one of the things she asked me, "Can I put posters with pics of my friends on the wall?" Of course! I told her it will be her room now, and that I'm taking all my pictures off the wall & she can put up pictures or whatever she wants on the walls. She said "COOL!"
Ok, I've blabbed way too much again, sorry, but thanks to you all & if anyone has anything else to add, please do!!