For teens and moms of teens... (womanly issues)

[gemini9961]

Your husband needs to get over it and realize his little girl is not going to go out there and start sleeping with all these guys just because she's on the pill. He needs to give her more creidt than that. She is awful pain because of her period and she needs to be helped. The pill can help tremendously with her cramps and if they are still troublesome, there are prescription meds her doctor can prescribe that could help as well. My parents put me on the pill when I was her age because they didn't want me to get pregnant. I was not even having sex at the time, but looking back on it I really respect my parents for having the courage to come to me and put me on the pill for my own safety. They told me right upfront that this was not a license for me to have sex, but rather if I did that I would be more protected. I would rather talk to my daughter about sex and be open with it then have her come home pregnant at a young age. I really hope your husband gets over his old way of thinking and realizes his daughter is suffering.

[Queen of Poop]

I suffered terribly from the age of 11, cramping, throwing up the whole bit. Had an ultrasound, no reason for it. Went on the pill at 17 and still no relief. Tried the Annaprox, complete waste of time. And then some kind angel suggested I try a Chinese herb called Dang Quoi (there are several spellings). It smells terrible, comes in capsule format and has been my saving grace for many years now. I take it for about 3 days before and 1-2 days during and I am fine. Absolutely NO cramping, throwing up nothing. Please, before you stick her on the pill go to your pharmacy or local health food store and try this. There is NO guarantee the pill will work, it didn't for me.

[catnapper]

I agree with all of you, but the man is stubborn! He has it in his head that the pill = sex. He's a teacher and knows that kids are having sex today as young as twelve without the pill, so why he figures the pill = sex is beyond me because he KNOWS they'll have sex without the pill!

I will try to see if the arguements work about us having raised a smart, independant kid who will use it as pain relief, and not a license to do something she wouldn't have otherwise done.

He SWEARS there are other choices out there than the pill for relief, because the other parents on her soccer team said there were (yeah, the patch, injections... lol.) Either that or the doctors have told the parents that its "hormone therapy" (aka the pill) Funny how he gets all his medical information from a bunch of soccer moms

Thank you everyone for the advice and personal experiences. It really does help. I guess I was lucky - never had a cramp in my life.

[Husky_mom]

I Had These Knocking Down Pains Also, And Years And Years Passed Until I Found The Only Thing That Actually Worked, Some Pills Named "midol", They Woudn´t Make Me Throw Up, And Lower My Pains, I Really Turned All Colors Possible, I Even Called Myself The Incredible Hulk At That Tiem Of The Month, Since The Pain Made Me Look Like That.

I Am Very Irregular, But Now I Only Have Slight Pains, Well I Can Manage Them, As Other People I Know Woudn´t Stand Them At All, But Nothing Like The Ones I Had Before.
I Also Got Several Treatments To Put The Pains Down But None Worked, Just The Midol, Maybe You Should Try Them, And See If It Works For Her As It Did To Me.

Tell Her I Understand What She Goes Through (we´re Pretty Much Alike)

[wolflady]

I Had These Knocking Down Pains Also, And Years And Years Passed Until I Found The Only Thing That Actually Worked, Some Pills Named "midol"...

Me too! Midol PMS is what is currently working for me. I always had horrendous cramps (and still do) and tried everything: tylenol, ibuprofen, aleve, advil and now midol. I would suggest trying some of these first to see if they help, because you don't need a prescription, nor do you need to remember to take a pill everyday...you just take a tablet when you need it for pain.

[ramanth]

Kim, if the doctor was to tell you that the pill would be the only help she can get, would he relent then?

It sounds like she has Endo. Only surgery would know for sure. I had as much scar tissue as they could find removed and am on the pill to regulate my pain. It has helped a lot.

Hell, I'm engaged and I don't have sex (fiance wants to wait). Sounds like you have a good daughter with a good head on her shoulders.

Since your hubby seems set in his ways, I hope the doctor can find some way to ease or end her pain.

Just don't let her get the shot that induces menopause (can't recall what it's called). I only recieved one injection, didn't like it, and I'm STILL have menopausal symptoms. Bleah!!!