For teens and moms of teens... (womanly issues)

[Daisy and Delilah]

I wholeheartedly agree with Val(dukedogsmom). She needs the pill to change her life and if it helps her that much, then let her have it. Val is so right in saying, if she wants to have sex she'll have it anyway. I would change her quality of life and look at the pill as therapeutic rather than suggestive. She sounds like a great kid. Best of luck with the problem

[crsvstang]

My aunt had the same problems with her period when she was younger. There was nothing that would help until she got on the pill. She still had some problems, but nothing like when she was not on the pill. I remember when she used to cry and scream because she had such bad cramps.

I think you and your husband should really consider putting her on the pill.

[Donnaj4962]

I can relate to this, as this was me when I was younger. My parents opted to go against the doctors suggestion... and no pill. I had to endure the pain. Every month, it was just a given that I would miss at least one day of school. Once I was able to pay for my own medications, I began taking the pill, and what a difference it made! I was amazed at how the week would fly by with little or no pain! I hope that your husband will re-think his decision. Remember that you have done everything you can to talk with her about the ramifications of having sex and that you have raised a level headed child! She is fortunate as many teens don't have parents that will even talk with them about the issue. I agree that you should NOT go behind your husband's back to get the pills for your daughter. That is not the responsible thing to teach your child about relationships. I hope this has helped. Just to let you know, I am now 43, no longer on the pill, and my cycle is not near what it was when I was younger! It does get better!

[mruffruff]

I really think the Anaprox should be given a chance. It helped me tremendously.

[Corinna]

I understand the whole problem as I've been there with my daughter . We finally did get her the pill. Helped a lot but then she too got ill from it the patch has been the God sent. Even now as a married woman she uses it.It has to be the best thing ever invented.
If you have taught her the values you beleive in and keep reinforcing them she should do the right choices. As others have said after a year if they haven't this won't change that. Trust her to be smart.

[kuhio98]

I had the same problem as a young girl. No one ever suggested the pill for me. No idea why. I used to miss at least 1 day of school a month. I was so miserable. Out of desperation one day, I took one of my brother's back spasm pills (Flexeril). (Afterall, the uterus is a muscle). Ahhhh, sweet relief! What a difference. I only took 1 a month unless the cramps were especially bad. They did tend to make me a little drowsy but at least I wasn't groaning in pain.

[christa]

I went on the pill when I was about 17 . . . and for the same reason. SEVERE PMS! Helped too!

Don't make her suffer. Put her on the pill.

BTW, my severe pains ended up being endometerosis. Have they ever considered that with your daughter? It goes un-diagnosed A LOT! But it's a very painful thing to have and can eventually cause infertility.

[wolfsoul]

I am on Prozac, which can also be used for menstrual pain. I would put her on the pill though. It's alot safer with a less chance of side effects.

[slleipnir]

Didn't read the other posts...(and I don't know how old she is..) but I find birth control pills cuts cramps down A LOT! I get really bad pains too, and when I use that it cuts it back to almost nothing

[animal_rescue]

Yoga, I am the same way with cramps and I swear by yoga when it's my time of the month! The stretching really helps and actually reduces PMS as well as cramps! Here's a couple of simple poses she can do to help relieve it.

http://www.yoga.com/ydc/enlighten/en...ga and Periods

Start with this pose
http://www.santosha.com/asanas/shava.html]Shava-asana

http://www.yoga.com/ydc/enlighten/en...addha Konasana

http://www.hathayogalesson.com/]The ...ing Side Twist

http://www.yogacircle.com/asana_menses.html]Asanas

Hopefully this will help, also there's a tv show you might want to look for called Wai Lana Yoga and she has episodes on tv for Mentrual Poses.

[CalliesMom]

As a teenager, I had absolutely horrendous pain during my periods. I was put on the pill at 17 for other reasons but they do help. I am uncomfortable the first day/day and a half, not a "can't get out of bed because of the pain" as I did before.

I also don't understand what the big deal is about birth control pills. It is not a license to have sex as the only thing it prevents is pregnancy. STDs can be a lot worse in some cases...Teenagers have sex regardless of what their parents say.

[Muddy4paws]

I was the same a few years ago, It got to the point of fainting once over the pain it caused. I tried so much and the one thing that eased the pain abit was "femidex" But since being on the pill I get small cramps but I guess its expected but the pill really did cut down on the pain a hell of alot!

Has she tried heat soothers? I used to find that hot drinks and heat around my tummy area helped to ease the pain

[jackie]

i would put her on the pill. Its being used as a medicament here, not you like and your husband are saying "go on honey, go have sex now". I had a couple of friends very similar to your daughter, and going on the B.C. pill turned their life around for them. Now they can function normally during their period.