From what I gather I think the following breeds would be ok for you:

lab, golden or flat coated retreiver (can be very friendly but are loyal, will be a family dog but if you spend the most time with it, you do the training, feeding etc... *should* be loyal enough to be only "your" dog)

brittany or springer spaniel (brittany needs less professional grooming)

Australian Shepherd (a lot like a border but a *little* less active but deffinatly still active enough, they are a LOT alike. Aussies are a little easier to handle. Thats the main reasons I chose an Aussie over a Border, and I am also very active) (they are known to bark to warn & when they get excited, they bark a lot for some people but not all the time)

Rescue/shelter/petfinder dog. You'd be surprised what breeds (mixed & purebred) are in shelters. most places will take your info (what you want in a dog) and try to match you up with a dog that suits you & your lifestyle.

Remember if you decide to get a purebred from a breeder make sure it is a reputable breeder. A BYB (back yard breeder) and pet store puppies are often badly bred, therefore causing a lot of physical & emotional problems, not a good speciman of the breed. Choosing the right breeder is just as important as choosing the right dog.

Here's a couple links to a few quizes you can take that may help:
http://animal.discovery.com/guides/d.../selector1.jsp
http://www.dogbreedinfo.com/search.htm