If it makes your John feel any better, *sigh*, my John, who freelances, has been out of work nearly 1 1/2 years and is also desperately looking. He has 30+ yrs experience in the technology field, has lots of resumes out, but age and over experience is his downfall. He's not even concerned about the wages, just getting a job! And between this time, he moved in to help with my mother and ME! I'm on disability, and since J isn't working, he isn't monetarily contributing (but helps in more ways then you can imagine) so my brother is upset, and therefore NOT contributing anything to house expenses on spite. Times are tough, but you know what, sweetie? I refuse to let them overwhelm me. I try to take one day at a time. It's hard, but I sincerely believe things will work out. How worse can they get? Plus, when I look at what I have (a roof over my head, food) compared to those poor displaced people in New Orleans etc. I consider myself damn lucky. They say money is the root of all evil. I think you and your hubby are on the right path working things out as a team. You took a vow to be there for each other.
As far as work is concerned..well, we all know that companies are in the business of making money. Unfortunately, they really don't care about the employee. Luckily I had tons of vacation and personal and sick days but after they were used (and not for myself-for sick parents mostly) I also had to use no pay days and time. Without saying explicively, I was laid off (and I had senority) I knew it was because I was spazzing out and rarely there. So I feel for you. It;s hard to work when you're emotionally drained. You sound like a carbon copy of me, so I really really feel bad for you. Life can be so unfair, but I believe things happen for a reason. I pray that there's a bright light at the end of the tunnel for you. Please feel free to vent whenever you want.