Oh Kim, I feel sorry for you. I too was once in your positon, but learned very *quickly* how to handle the situation.

You need to be gracious and kind, but do NOT offer any insite to your life. I know that sounds cruel, but your family sounds oh so much like mine. They ask questions to be "friendly" then turn on you and stab you in the back with the knowledge that they have. So don't give them anything to get back at you with.

When your brother calls the next time to wish you a happy Birthday, acknowlege it - sweetly - then YOU start asking questions (how's your life, family, etc) Then say (once again , sweetly) "Well thanks for calling, but I must go now." Done, end of the dutiful phone call.

If you want to PM me we can exchange horror stories!!


BTW- HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!