What is wrong with her?

[popcornbird]

Originally posted by jackie
Hey, she gave birth to you! Go get that lady some bacon!

That's what I was going to say.

I ***know*** your mother has done some awful things, BUT, sorry Megan...her asking you to make her dinner? That could have been a wonderfully positive step in fixing or at least SOMEWHAT mending the relationship. I think you could have taken the opportunity in doing your part to heal the problems between the mother/daughter relationship. Just my honest opinion. Problems in relationships USUALLY go both ways. What I mean by that is, of course one usually starts it, but both sides contribute to the problem. Its like this. If one person lights a match, and the other blows it out, the fire would go out. If one person lights a match and the other pours oil on it.....well.....the fire would increase, and keep increasing until things are completely out of control. That is how I see problems in family relationships, or any relationship. SOMEONE has to be the peacemaker, or things would get out of control. It is not easy, I know, BUT...you could have taken this opportunity. Never know what kind deed will soften her heart. Being a rebel will only make things worse. Each side has the choice to do things that will make things better. When both sides rebel against the other, nothing will ever get better. I'm just trying to see both sides. Sorry, but this is how I feel. If I were you, I would've made her dinner, whether I wanted to or not. She DID give you birth, and raised you...despite the bad things she has done. I often make dinner for the family, and always help in the kitchen before dinner time. Its something I feel is my duty as a daughter, now that I'm grown up. I know your mother is different, but still...She is STILL your mother...She carried you in her womb for 9 months, gave birth to you in pain, nursed you (I assume so anyway), raised you. Despite the fact that she has done wrong towards you, it doesn't change her relationship to you. She is STILL your mother. She will always be. Nothing can change that. She won't even be with you forever. Making her dinner wouldn't have killed you. It would've only made her think what a good daughter she has...even if she wouldn't admit it. I think making her dinner could have been a good deed on your part, that may have POSSIBLY softened her heart. Even if it didn't, it would've made YOU the better person.