Originally posted by caseysmom
A friend of mine had an amnio and miscarried, I am glad you are not risking that.
I'm so sorry for your friend... I just can't imagine. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to know now so I could either prepare or let my worries go but I just can't risk it. The odds are approximately 1 in 300. That's WAY too "good" for me. I mean, what are the odds of a church burning down less than 2 days before your wedding? Much greater than 1 in 300 and it happened to me! No... I just can't risk it.

My daughters best friends sister has downs, she is a very special child. She is so loving and means the world to all of us, I am glad that wouldn't make you want to end his life.
I totally don't get how someone could abort a baby because of Down's. A horribly severe case of mental retardation that would result in NO quality of life - okay. I still couldn't do it myself but I could understand how someone else might. But children with Down's... they still live and love and cry and laugh and... they're just not completely "normal". How could anyone terminate a baby just because they're not completely "normal". Obviously, I hope it turns out that my son doesn't have Down's, but you know what? If he does, I'll still love him and we'll deal with it.

Lobodeb, the way things are here, my OBGYN doesn't do the sonogram. I went to a place called Advanced Radiation to have the scan. The tech there isn't trained (or allowed) to tell you what looks good and what doesn't. Hell, when she said that he had a penis and I said "So it's definitely a boy, huh?" she actually replied "I can't say that it is or isn't definitely. I can only tell you what I see." I asked why, she said legal reasons. So she takes the scan, gets the views and pictures she needs from it and someone else reads the scans and looks at the measurements they take and reports back to your doctor.

So, that scan happened on July 27th. My next OBGYN appointment was this past Friday, so I hadn't seen any doctor between then and last Friday. My OB told me that the tech who read the sonogram saw two areas of concern and that's how this whole thing came about. So no, no one ever said "Hmmm, that doesn't look quite right" or anything like that because it's all coming from different people! The doctor I saw at University of Maryland today wants to monitor my progression so on top of regular OBGYN appointments, I will now be seeing him monthly as well. I am SO tired of doctors and I'm just barely over halfway there!!!


Thank you, everyone, for your thoughts and prayers.