But I think it is a male cat thing. Sorta - I'm in charge so beat it - concept. Miley always gives in to Graemer, so he expects her to leave. Sometimes I end up hold them both. They a still skinny and don't weigh much, so I can still do that. They both like to be held like babies, over the shoulder, so I end up with one on each shoulder. Actually, I am in heaven when that happens. They are so warm and silky - and have such a sweet smell to them, that I find it be one of my favorite things to do with them. They are often way too active to relax for that many moments. Our best cuddle time is in the bed in the morning.