Originally posted by LorraineO
Cataholic...

I still think fox gals advice to email this guy or have any contact with him in the future is not a good thing... by giving him any reaction at all will only encourage this guy to bother cali more,, I was once stalked and trust me,,, confronting this guy in any way is not a good thing at all. He could become angry and do something drastic by hearing your feelings of rejection and or defience. .And I am not a weak or timid person so saying that these guys prey on the weak and timid is NOT true,,, they pick and choose whoever!!!
I can understand how you believe my advice was wrong, sense your bad experience, but I too have been stalked. I confronted him over the phone, advised to by the police officer that was sitting in my house at the time. Up in till then I did ignore him, once I did what the officer said, things worked out, he soon move out of my life.

As he told me, it can go different ways, but in more cases then not, they have found that ignoring them, just can make them angrier. Makes them think that you are weak and scared and something they feed on, your fears.

There is no 100% sure black and white answer to this.
So I gave her this advice for 2 reasons. One because of what the officer told me. As he put it, "most would rather pick on a mouse, then they would a lion, so be a loin."

Second was after reading her account of what happened, it is just possible that he saw some cute girls and wanted to pick them up, it's just his skills at picking up woman is way off base.

Once she e-mails him and tells him, then of course she should not contact him again, that's just common sense. Most likely he will come back with an e-mail saying he's sorry and didn't mean to scare them, etc etc. But no never answer him back again.



Also, next time cail, if you give out an e-mail address, make it a fake one.