Donna, I had something very similar happen to me. Mine was an officer. He cheated on me with a convenience store employee and then ended up marrying a coworker. He was the one true love of my life. There's not someone for everyone. I think girls growing up shouldn't be taught that. I've come to accept that I may never have anyone again, too. Also, some of us left our marriages because of super bad situations, so it wasn't because we didn't work on it. I've got enough baggage to take a big trip.