Is there such a thing as TRUE HAPPY marriage?

[Logan]

Originally posted by Karen
Happy marriage is not an oxymoron!

My parents were happily married for 43 1/2 years, until my mother died from ALS. Paul and I have been married for almost 19 years.

Do we have disagreements sometimes? Yes. Did my parents? Yes.
We are all huamn.

But we do still love each other, and that is what counts.

Thank you, Karen! My parents have been married for 48 years next month and are still very happy. They set a wonderful example for their 3 kids, too.

I have been through a divorce, but I don't look back at every moment of that marriage with regret. We had fun times, in addition to the not so fun ones, and I like to share those things with our daughter, who can't remember her father and me being together.

After 10 years of being single, I fell in love again. We will have our 3rd anniversary in Dec. I got it right this time.

Yes, there are many, many happily married people!!!!!!

[dukedogsmom]

Guess some of us should have added that's what it is to us. You others should consider yourselves very lucky and don't ever take it for granted.

[JennaRian]

My parents just got divorced last week (well its not legal yet, like went through court) but they both split. My dad came back & my sister & i & him are moving to FL (granite when the weahter gets better) right now we are in a two -bedroom apartment since my moms name is on the house & such. arg. my parents were married for 18 years, happy as other until my mom decided she was bored with us.

[kuhio98]

I've been married for 16 years now and I was blissfully happy 10 of those years. But, marriage has it's ups and downs. Some times are great and some times just suck. Sometimes you can't imagine life without your spouse, sometimes you can't imagine staying there one more day. No one is happy all of the time. People drift a part, but it's important to try to drift back together. If you let yourself drift apart too long.....

Most people I know have been divorced at least once. (I haven't) I've heard some people say (who have gone through multiple divorces) that if they knew then what they know now, they would have tried harder on the first marriage. Sometimes, people think they will be happier with someone else. I'm sure that's true in a lot of cases. But, you are going to be pretty much the same person in the next relationship. So, if you're not happy with yourself, a new person can't make you happy.

[anna_66]

Originally posted by dukedogsmom
Guess some of us should have added that's what it is to us. You others should consider yourselves very lucky and don't ever take it for granted.

I would NEVER EVER take my marriage for granted. I have the most wonderful man in the world (well to me anyway)! I can't imagine what life would be like without him.

On October 31st we will have been married 19 years. I've always gotten bored with things (anything actually!) and could never do them for long, but this is one thing I could and plan to do until I die!
Mark is my lover and my best friend.

So YES, there is such a thing as a TRUE HAPPY MARRIAGE

[Lexi_Lover]

Originally posted by anna_66
I would NEVER EVER take my marriage for granted. I have the most wonderful man in the world (well to me anyway)! I can't imagine what life would be like without him.

On October 31st we will have been married 19 years. I've always gotten bored with things (anything actually!) and could never do them for long, but this is one thing I could and plan to do until I die!
Mark is my lover and my best friend.

So YES, there is such a thing as a TRUE HAPPY MARRIAGE

Oh Anna, thats so beautiful! Mark is a very special Man, and I'm sure he knows it too!

LOL, I am too young to be married, but if I ever do, I hope it can be as special as so many other people's marriages here. I think there are such things as TRUE & HAPPY marriages.

[cyber-sibes]

At 21, I got married (way too young) and was married for 19 years and finally left after many miserable years. I was single for 3 years and proved to myself I could take care of myself - got jobs, apartments, vehicles, cared for the kids, etc. This was incredibly important to me to know I could take care of myself. Three years later I married a man who had become my best friend. For two years we had a long-distance relationship 500 miles apart. We've been married 9 1/2 years now. It has shown me that no marriage is perfect, each has it's own share of love and grief, but it sure is good to laugh together. He often says his job in life is to make me laugh. We have our ups & downs, but we talk. We don't go to bed mad at each other. We appreciate each other. We pray together. We read and discuss ideas together. We have gone to counseling during rough patches. It helps. I'm not even sure that a "happy marriage" is a realistic way to view it. No one is happy every moment forever. But I know I'm satisfied with my marriage, it is maturing and I can honestly say that I look forward to growing old with him. We honor each other as individuals. and like the song says, "Love the one you're with!"

[prechrswife]

My husband and I have been married for 5 years next month. We do have a very happy marriage. He is my best friend. We enjoy each other's company and value each other's opinions. He really is a blessing in my life.

[moosmom]

I am envious of all of you who have wonderful marriages. The thing I miss the most is going to sleep with someone at night, waking up next to them in the morning and having someone other than my cats to talk to.

Then I see what my friends go through with their bf's, sig. others and husbands and am kind of glad I live alone. I don't know. I'm not ruling out marriage again. But I really don't see it happening at my age.

Val,

Me, too, Donna! If I find him first, I'll share him with you.

It's a deal!!!

[chocolatepuppy]

Hubby and I have been married 29 years. Yes it has its ups and downs, but the good far out weighs the bad. He is my best friend.

[Uabassoon]

I think there is such a thing as a happy marriage. My parents just had their 30th anniversary and they are very happy. I hope that someday I can have what they do. Right now I'm in an amazing relationship and I will consider myself very lucky if I'm able to spend the rest of my life with her. I think that if you are willing to wait for the right person and not just settle because you are in a hurry to be married and realize that sometimes you have to compromise then a happy marriage is possible

[Kfamr]

Originally posted by Lexi_Lover
Oh Anna, thats so beautiful! Mark is a very special Man, and I'm sure he knows it too!

I agree completely, Paula. Having stayed with them, I can tell the love they share and it really is quite beautiful. They're both very lucky to have eachother.

I think anyone could be in a happy marriage if they find the "right" person to share it with. I believe there's someone out there for everyone.

[lynnestankard]

Sorry to disagree - Happy and Marriage to go together. As long as you work hard at it and remember - we all argue but for goodness sake - make up afterwards. Don and I have been wed for 35 years - we've been through really stressful. difficult and sad times. But through it all we've had each other - he's my rock, my bestest friend and without him I'm lost.
Perhaps you have to find your soul mate - so keep on looking everyone.

Lynne

[neko1]

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[BitsyNaceyDog]

Originally posted by lynnestankard
Sorry to disagree - Happy and Marriage do go together. As long as you work hard at it and remember - we all argue but for goodness sake - make up afterwards. Don and I have been wed for 35 years - we've been through really stressful. difficult and sad times. But through it all we've had each other - he's my rock, my bestest friend and without him I'm lost.
Perhaps you have to find your soul mate - so keep on looking everyone.

Lynne

Perfectly said. This sunday will be Justin and my fifth anniversary. I certainly don't have as much experience as some of you, but I do have a truly happy marriage. Of corse there is ups and downs, but like someone stated, the good outweighs the bad (at least for us). Sure we get frustrated with each other and sometimes disagree, but we work at it and in the end everything always works out.
My in-laws just had their 29th anniversary and they are very much still happily married. My parents too have been married 29 years and although they had some very very rocky times they worked at it and pulled through and are again very happy together. My grandparents were married for over 40 years (I don't remember the exact number, 43 I think) and were two of the happiest people I knew, until my grandpa got very very ill and passed away.

So to answer your question- Is there such a thing as a truly happy marriage?- I know there is.