Lizbud, I'm sorry if I misread your words. I am beyond emotionally frazzled over the whole situation. I over-reacted, and I'm sorry. I get tired of people discounting my feelings since I am a evil-step-monster, and thinking that I don't care because I am the one who catches her in all her lies. People think that because I catch the lies that I'm looking for them, and I'm going to extra lengths to snag her doing something wrong. I'm not! I swear! I know now thats not your intention, but believe me, I've heard my share of it elsewhere.

Regarding my husband, my goodness, he is definately NOT the pat on the back and send her on her way dad. He does EVERYTHING he can to make EACH and EVERY one of her swim meets. Even when she pointedly ignores him during and after the meets. If you've ever been to swim meet... its pure three hours of torture but he does it to watch her swim that 5 minutes. He even held off his own education til if he doesn't finish a mandatory 24 credits by December, he'll permanently loose his teaching certificate just so he could spend as much time with the kids and their activities as possible. He TRIES to sit down with her, and researching colleges, and calling college coaches on her behalf, but she pushes him away. Last year when she acted up, we felt it was because she was jeaous that we were spending so much time with our son contacting colleges... now its her turn and she doesn't want our attention and help in the college search. We continually reach out to her and she continually pushes us back.