It was pretty clearly stated that this girl is your step child who
has a Mom who didn't look out for her welfare at all. Sorry if
that wasn't made clear for you. I don't think you don't care.

It's just that the thing that struck me about the situation was
the facts of this child's life are so sad. She seems like a very unhappy kid. How must she feel about herself & life in general
if her Dad won't participate in her parenting, except to "pat her
on the head" and go on his way.I don't have answers to give,
but just felt sad about how awful it would feel if your own Mom
didn't love you. I can think of few things sadder than that.

I do hope you can maybe get some family theraphy or what
ever you need to get this worked out. Good luck, of course.