My door is closed at night too - my Meka will start at 3am every morning with playing with feet and just anything to wake up hubby - he takes her out and closes the door and then we try again but she just won't learn so we just leave the door closed...

The idea about playing an hour before bedtime is a great one!! That will help a lot I'm sure. don't worry - you are not being cruel.. How long has it been going on? Debbie