Kelly,

I think you guys should pick just one person out of the family to go visit him. He needs to know he is not alone but he also needs to know you all CANNOT continue to bail his butt out when he gets in trouble. I think no one going to visit at all is not good. It will make him feel completely abandoned and that could make him want to do these stupid things even more. All going would give him an indication that it was ok and no matter what he does you will all support his butt and help him out. IMO...he needs to know he is not alone but he does need a reality check and knowing that you all aren't going to be behind him and bail him out maybe the way. Good Luck and lots of hugs for you and all your family.

Michelle