Aww Carol. I'm so sorry to hear about this, and how much it causes you pain.

I only got to know one of my grandparents as a child, and that is because the others passed away when I was very young...and because they lived so far away, I never got to see them. My paternal grandmother that I *did* get to know also lived far, but she came to live with us for a year when I was about 8 years old. At that time, when she was staying with us...she caused my parents to feel the same way as you are feeling now. The reason...Well...she just never showed my brother and I the love most grandparents do. I figured the reason was because she had like 15 grandchildren that were much older than us (some up to 20 years older), and she gave all her love and time to them, years before we even existed. When she came to live with us, she constantly spoke about her other grandkids, and while that is understandable...obviously she would miss them...it hurt us so deeply that she didn't seem to care that we were her grandkids too. Oh well...She was sweet at times, but I just felt she didn't want to spend any time with us even when she was living with us...in the same home. It did hurt a lot when she passed away. I kept thinking that I never got to know my other 3 grandparents, and the one that I could've spent time with, didn't want to give my brother and I her time. So I know how you feel. Some people are just like that. I'm sure they mean well...but that is just how some people are.