How can my cat become a lap cat

[AvaJoy]

Originally posted by Maya & Inka's mommy
It is very difficult to teach your cat something like this! Most cats don't want to be forced to sit on your lap; but one day, they might decide for themselves that they WANT TO sit on your lap. It's their decision !!!

Case in point is my Debra, who for years has not liked being picked up and would not cuddle much at all. Lately she has started to jump onto my lap in the mornings when I sit down at the table to have my coffee . . . odd but very endearing!

I am going through the same stage with my almost 1 year old Chazmanian Devil. I doubt if he will EVER be a lap cat and I need to accept his personality as it is . . . but still hoping that maybe with maturity he will decide to seek out affection. All he wants to do (besides nap and eat) is terrorize my older cats. He is a bully to them, and to humans . . . he strikes out and bites throwing mini temper tantrums if you try to pick him up when he is in play mode. He will hiss and growl if you go near him when he is eating. He sure put on a sweet, docile act when I found/rescued him. He is smart as a whip and just as quick. He refuses to wear a collar and I know why . . . so as to remain as discreet as possible in his mischievious deeds. He chewed through the cord to my cell phone charger the other day . . . it is a wonder he did not electrocute himself. UGH!