I'm with Sara and Logan on this one (politics aside ). When I was growing up we were "proper" with sitting at the table until everyone was finished with a "may I be excused" when leaving. As a small child we had what was known as a "pusher" for peas and such. It was a sterling (always sterling silver dahling) utensil that looked like a wee hoe, small enough to fit small fingers. Cloth napkins with a silver napkin ring please, with initials. Cut when needed with your knife in your right, eat with the left. Utensils used from the outside in. Always a separate salad fork etc etc. Of course a separate butter knife on the butter plate. Oh my, memories......