Originally posted by catnapper
This is his senior prom. He does not work, he does NOTHING around the house - might be different if he could at least take out the trash. He HAD a job and was fired because he never showed up. Its very frustrating because he always needs money and is always getting it handed to him, while his sisters work. Not fair.

I guess I should have mentioned how he ALWAYS expects us to pay for everything, and this was the line he crossed.
I say he should wear whatever he wants. That's not the important issue here (to me).

This BOY needs to learn to be a man. To begin (at this very late date), he needs to start making his own decisions and mistakes and start paying the consequences for those decisions/mistakes. If you guys keep bailing him out, he'll never get confidence and continue to be a child.

Why aren't you requiring more of him? He's not going to require it of himself. Why should he? He's got a pretty sweet deal.

By going behind his back (you're not evil) it may send the message to him that his decisions are wrong. If he went to the prom in what he originally picked out, the world would not end. And he would probably learn a lesson when his buddies and GF gives him grief over his choice.

Disclaimer: The opinion expressed above is from a woman who has never raised children but has a 42-year old brother who still lives with his Mommy because he stopped maturing at about 13 because he didn't have to! His Mommy continues to bail him out of one scrape after another so he's never had to pay the consequences of his poor decisions.