Wolfsoul ~ In response to buckner’s post, Suki responded "Why? It isn’t YOUR life" then you agreed. And went on to say "Everybody has preferences and they don’t affect me or my life."

What I was trying to say is that "If it doesn’t affect my life" is a poor argument. I felt that you were saying that if it doesn’t affect your life directly, people should just shut up about it and look the other way and not get involved in the conversation. I’m sorry if I misinterpreted both of you.

I talked to my brother and stepson this morning. Both are gay. My brother (I’m trying to get him to join PT because he has 3 kitties) said that he didn’t really have an opinion on gay marriage but could imagine that some day, if he met the right person, he might want some sort of ceremony. My stepson laughed at the whole idea. He has been with his partner for 25 years. Neither of them support gay marriage legislation. They said the whole topic was "boring" and they like being "different". But, they admitted that both of their employers recognize same-sex partners so they don’t have a problem with insurance and retirement benefits. They could see legislation for same-sex partner rights but didn’t see that as including marriage. Ron (stepson) said that they saw marriage as more of a business arrangement and they didn’t think that was necessary (for them anyway). Ron went on to say that with all the other issues affecting our daily lives, the gay marriage issue isn’t even a "blip on the radar". I thought their comments were interesting. They both said that they don’t feel discriminated against but they didn’t speak for everyone. (of course).