Thank you for posting this so that we know some of what is going on. I know what you mean when you say it is a good thing for you. I divorced my first husband after 4 1/2 years of marriage, and it was a relief to get everything out in the open and not have to hide the truth of our relationship any more, etc. As difficult as it was in some ways, it was so much more refreshing in other ways. It gives you a new chance at life, and you know you won't be held down by something/someone that isn't the best match for you. You have done what is best for both of you, and both of you will be free to pursue your own dreams again, without the conflicts of interest, etc. I wish you the best, and hope that you DO get visitation with the three kitties who will be going with him.