I'd have to agree it may be time to look for a different Vet. Or if it wasn't so much the doctor but his/her staff then mention the unhelpful attitude to the doc! I'm sure they would want to know how you felt.
My vet is wonderful I use a husband & wife team they know me and each of my critters. When I go to them I feel welcomed, and I get the impression that they think my pets are the best......which they are but I'm sure all their other clients feel the same!! hahaha
They listen to my desires and recommend different options if the visit is due to something more then yearly shots. My point is you have to trust them! Someone else said they should treat you like a family doctor would, and well I'd agree with that! Hope your baby survived her spaying, and the stitches removal!
peace & harmony