I think it helps if you can play with them before the adoption. I got my second cat from my SIL. Her cat had a litter so I was able to play with each one. When I played with her sister she compained about everythinig. No matter what I did to her she meowed at me to put her down. Chianti let me hold her any which way and she didn't make a peep. She is the mellowest cat I have ever seen. Only thing wrong with her is she is a demolition derby. She scratches the furniture. She is so little to do so much damage. I put soft claws on her.