thoughts on premarital sex....

[wolflady]

I'm probably the most conservative person anyone on this board will ever meet, so I'm sure many will not agree with my opinion, but that's ok. No need to flame me for my opinion, because I already know that most people don't think like I do....given the state of the world these days...
I do believe that young people need sex education, and I started getting mine in the 4th grade. I remember the boys went into one room and the girls went into another room and they showed us "the video" about what happens to young girls as they mature and things that would be happening to our bodies etc (who knows what video the boys watched! LOL).
Other than that, we really never dealt with sex education, and somehow I came out just fine. I'm not sure exactly what they're doing in school these days, but when I was in school, we didn't talk about people having sex and STDs and condoms and all of that stuff. It was more like what will be happening to our bodies as we grow. My parents were always open and willing to talk to us about it, but I guess just because of the way I was raised, I never really had any curiosity or interest in sex. *GASP* I was too busy being a kid and thinking about kid things like nailpolish and studies.
I honestly don't understand why young people today are so sexually active. It's so sad IMO. Kids need innocence and a time to be kids, because there's plenty of time to be adults, and personally I don't think kids are responsible enough to be having sex in high school (or younger).
I really don't know what changed or how, but it's easy to see that things in the world aren't getting any better. Kids are having kids instead of playing with their legos or dolls. The media practically promotes teen sex and it's just sad. What people do with their lives and their bodies is their business, but it's sad that more people don't have morals and respect for themselves and their bodies to respect the responsibility of what sex is and what it means (or rather, what it should mean).
I don't think I'll ever understand how people can get so close to someone they aren't in love with. For me, that's giving ultimate love, trust and understanding to another person and it's so sad that people are so careless with it and don't associate passionate feeling to it. I guess a lot of people these days don't associate meaning with the "act", which makes it just that...an act, not an intimate expression of your love for someone else. That's sad
I would never be able to just screw around with someone I didn't know or deeply care about, but that's just me.
Sorry for the tangeant, but it's just a pet peeve with me. As far as pre-marital sex, it happens and it always will. Even I (your princess of purity) had pre-marital sex, but only after I really got to know the person and felt deeply in love with that person. I don't open up easily to people, and especially in such an intimate way. Plus, the first time I ever did it was in college.

As far as living together...I say to each his own. I don't have a problem with it. It works for some people and not for others. I personally didn't move in with my husband until after I was married, but I've seen several couples live together prior to marriage. Since they were getting married, I saw absolutely no problem with it. I think it's just a personal preference and how a person was raised. I was raised to never live with a guy until marriage so that's what I did.