Mina's Momma,

In an effort to keep the peace, I'd get her something, but nothing as nice as you give your Mom.

When I read your dilemma, it was like deja vu all over again. When I got married, my Dad was just dating what would turn out to be my stepmom. As like you, she and I did NOT get along. I had a small wedding (bride, groom, 2 attendants and parents). My Mom passed away a year prior to me getting married. I did NOT invite "Barbie", my Dad's girlfriend. What does he do??? He shows up with her anyway!!! When my wedding pictures were taken, there were at least 4 of them with Barbie and her 9 year old daughter Lynn in them. When I showed them to the rest of my family, who I was unable to invite because of expenses, I had to take those pictures out in order to not hurt MY family's feelings.

I do not wish your situation on anyone. I only hope that your special day goes smoothly without a hitch.

Oh, btw, a WONDERFUL opportunity recently occurred. While my stepmonster was alive (she died in 1995), I was never able to eliminate her from my life. She was like a bad rash! But...I put together pictures of my Dad (who passed away in 1997) for a DVD and, with a click of a button, was able to crop that 6itch right outta his life like she never existed. What a feeling!!!