Hello BeeBee!!!! Well, you certainly have alot to say!!! It does take some cats a long time before they realize just how wonderful being held and sitting on a lap can be!!! But after hearing about your sad start in life(all those bugs....YUCK!!), I can see why you might want to take your time. Despite it all, it sounds like you have found a good family to take care of you. HAPPY COTD!!!!