You don't have to be so nice about us to get us to answer you - but it helps!!!

Jeffery has been with you longer and simply sees himself as coming first in your affections. In other words he sees himself as dominant over Bandit. When you are making a fuss of Bandit he sees it as his right to be made a fuss of too. Bandit however is accepting of his role as omega and doesn't feel he has the same right to demand attention.