Your dog is showing you that she believes herself to be the pack leader and she is NOT happy about the situation - she feels that she is not in total control of the pack (you and your husband) and is resorting the final weapon in the pack leader arsenal....physical control.
This dog should not be allowed to get onto your bed, your furniture or, I would suggest, even allowed into the bedroom.
This dog needs to have a stress relief - you need to treat her like a dog, take the responsibility of leading a human pack off of her and allow her to become a lower ranking member of the household.
Try it for a week - stop making a fuss of her when you come home, ignore her until she settles for a while. Stop giving her attention when she asks for it, ignore her until she has settled and then ask her to come to you for a fuss. Stop all treats unless they are rewards for commands.
Your dog hates the position of leader, wants you to take control and will be much happier and much more relaxed when it's natural position in the pack is restored.