*HUGS*

I can semi relate. When my step-grandma died, I went to the funeral only because my parents asked me too. (They were in Hawaii at the time and could not attend)

I have no issues with most of my step-family, but when my dad's dad remarried, she barely gave us (my parents and sisters) the time of day. A very shrewd woman but loving to her own children.

I say grieve in your own way and support your husband the best way you can.

*HUGS*